看書有道The biggest disappointments in our lives are often the result of misplaced expectations. This is especially true when it comes to our relationships and interactions with others.Tempering your expectations of other people will greatly reduce unnecessary frustration and suffering, in both your life and theirs, and help you refocus on the things that truly matter.
生活充滿不期而遇的經歷。心有期待很美好，
給人目標、快樂和前行的動力。
但生活並不盡在你的掌控之中，
大多數時候現實跟期待完全是兩碼事。
期待他人能夠主動無私地為你的利益服務，
期待世界圍著你轉，
期待凡是簡單容易，期待不勞而獲……
諸如此類的期待叫做妄想，只會帶來失望和痛苦。
你檢視過自己的期望嗎？至誠無妄
停止對自己不切實際的期待也停止對別人不切實際的期待“I’m not in this world to live up to your expectationsand you’re not in this world to live up to mine.”―Bruce Lee 我活著不是為了滿足你的期望，就像你也不是因為我的期望而活著一樣。―李小龍
Life is full of experiences and trials that you never saw coming.
Sometimes what we expect to happen
and the reality of the situation are 2 very different things.
Expectations are nice to have.
They give you goals, purpose, joy and
even something to look forward to,
but you have to understand that life happens.
you’re not always in control.
生活充滿不期而遇的經歷。有時現實跟我們的期待完全是兩碼事。期待很美好，給人以目標和快樂，使人有所憧憬，但你得明白：生活並不盡在你的掌控之中。
Some expectations are good to have and some are unhealthy.
Here’s a list of expectations that if you have, you need to change.
By changing certain expectations in your life,
you are opening yourself up to new experiences,
new ways of thinking and even a greater sense of accomplishment
that you otherwise could not have received.
有些期待很美好，而有些則無益。有一些期待是需要馬上改變的。調整對生活的某些期待，你會迎來新體驗和新思維，甚至還能獲得前所未有的成就感。
To expect 期待To think or believe something will happen, or someone will arrive.Expectation 英 [ˌekspekˈteɪʃn] 美 [ˌɛkspɛkˈteʃən] n.期待； 預期； 前程； [數]期望值A belief that something will happen or is likely to happen, a feeling or belief about how successful, good, etc., someone or something will be.Trials [ˈtraiəlz] n.審判( trial的名詞複數 )； （對能力、質量、性能等的）試驗； 測試； 比賽A test, usually over a limited period of time, to discover how effective or suitable something or someone is.Purpose 英 [ˈpɜ:pəs] 美 [ˈpɜrpəs] n.意志； 目的； 作用； （進行中的）行動 vt.有意； 打算； 企圖（做）； 決意（做）Why you do something or why something exists.Something to look forward to 值得期待的某事To feel pleased and excited about something that is going to happen.Opening yourself up 開放自己（聽取接受不同的想法或意見）To show a willingness to listen to or accept different ideas or opinions.
Photo Xuan Ioc Xuan1. Stop Expecting People to be Perfect.停止期待別人盡善盡美If you have this mindset, you will always be disappointed. People will never live up to your expectations. There’s nothing wrong with having high expectations for people, but understand that when they fail, and they will, they still tried. Be understanding and don’t expect perfection.如果你總要求別人做到完美，那你必然一直失望，因為人們永遠也不可能達到你的期望。對人有很高的期望其實也無可厚非，但請記住：就算對方沒能做到，他們也盡力了。所以請多加體諒，不要苛求完美。Perfection 英 [pəˈfekʃn] 美 [pərˈfekʃn] n.完美； 完善； 最後加工； 圓滿Something that is in the condition that it cannot be improved; something that is perfect. (Perfect. having no mistakes or flaws; completely correct or accurate.)
Photo Goroke2. Stop Expecting the Worst from People.停止預料別人糟糕透頂On the flip side, if you’re always expecting people to fail, you’re not giving them the chance to succeed. Encourage those around you. Help them, teach them. That’s how they will grow and be able to accomplish hard things.反之，如果你總覺得別人會栽跟頭，那等於是在扼殺他們成功的機會。你應該多鼓勵他們、幫助他們、指導他們。這樣他們才能成長並征服困難。The Worst 最壞的（更糟糕的）Something that is worse than all others; least skillful, talented, or successful; least appropriate, useful, or helpful.On the flip side 另一方面The opposite, less good or less popular side of something. Hard things 艱難的事情Things that are physically or mentally difficult to do. not easy.
Photo Yair AM3. Stop Expecting People to Pay for You.停止期望別人為你買單Your finances are your responsibility. You shouldn’t expect people to pay for your entertainment, your bills or even your groceries. Get in control of your money. Once you have a budget, stick to it. Just because all your friends go out to lunch doesn’t mean you have to. There are differences between needs and wants—if you want something, save up for it; don’t expect your friends or family to pitch in and get it for you.你應該為自己的經濟狀況負責，不要期望別人請你出去玩、給你買單或付菜錢。管好自己的錢袋，制定預算並堅持執行。朋友全都在外吃飯並不表示你必須跟著去。“需要”和“渴望”是有區別的：如果你渴望什麼，那就自己存錢，不要妄想親友買了送給你。Finances 英 ['faɪnænsɪz] 美 ['faɪnænsɪz] n.資金，經費；v.為…供給資金，從事金融活動( finance的第三人稱單數 )；Money available to a government, business, or person，matters relating to money and how it is spent or saved.Responsibility 英 [rɪˌspɒnsəˈbɪləti] 美 [rɪˌspɑnsəˈbɪləti] n.責任； 職責； 責任感，責任心； 負責任；To have a duty to do something, or to work for or help someone who is in a position of authority over you.Entertainment 英 [ˌentəˈteɪnmənt] 美 [ˌentərˈteɪnmənt] n.娛樂，消遣； 招待，款待； 娛樂節目；Amusement or pleasure that comes from watching a performer, playing a game, etc.Bills 英 [bɪls] 美 [bɪls] n.賬單( bill的名詞複數 )； 鈔票； 清單； 廣告Checks; An itemized list or statement of fees or charges of things you buy and use.Groceries [ˈgrəʊsəri:z] n.食品，雜貨； 雜貨業( grocery的名詞複數 )； 雜貨店； 雜品The food and other items that you buy in a food store or supermarket.In control of 在控制（限制某事物或某人的行為）To order, limit, or rule something, or someone's actions or behavior.Budget 英 [ˈbʌdʒɪt] 美 [ˈbʌdʒɪt] n.預算；預算案；預算撥款；一束vt.& vi.把…編入預算； 謹慎花錢；adj.價格低廉的； 花錢少的； 收費合理的； 便宜的vt.在預算中撥款給； 按預算撥（款）； 按預算來計劃（或安排）；規劃vi.做安排(for)； A plan that shows how much money a person or organization has or will have and how much they will need or be able to spend, or the amount of money you have available to spend.Stick to it 堅持下去To limit yourself to doing or using one particular thing and not change to anything else.Needs 英 [ni:dz] 美 [nidz] adv.（現與must前後連用）必須，一定，務必；v.需要，必須( need的第三人稱單數 )； （表示應該或不得不做）有必要；The things you must have for a satisfactory life. Wants 英 ['wɒnts] 美 ['wɒnts] n.需求，慾望，必需品； 缺乏( want的名詞複數 )； 需要的東西； 貧窮 貧困；v.缺少( want的第三人稱單數 )； 應該； 打算； 需要…在場Products and services that people want.To pitch in （每一個人都在. ..或參與其中）To start to do something as part of a group, especially something helpful.
Photo Heo Jiseon4. Stop Expecting Things to Always Go Wrong.停止擔憂萬事不順Whatever streak of bad luck you may think you’ve been having, you shouldn’t come to expect that out of everything. Learn to stay positive. If you look for the good in things you will find them, and it’s the same with bad things. If your whole focus is on situations never turning out how you want them to, they never will.不管你覺得自己現在有多倒黴，也不要因此意象出無數噩運。學會保持積極樂觀。如果你心懷美好，就會發現美好;反之亦然。要是你一心以為一切都不會變成期望的那樣，結果還真會事與願違。A streak of something (usually something negative. 一些不好的東西（通常是消極的）Something extremely quickly and unforeseen.Focus (noun) 英 [ˈfəʊkəs] 美 [ˈfoʊkəs] n.焦點； 影象的清晰度； （活動、注意力、興趣等的）中心； [醫]病灶，病症The main or central point of something, especially of attention or interest.To turn out 原來，後來證明；To happen in a particular way or to have a particular result, especially an unexpected one, or to be known or discovered finally and surprisingly.
Photo Goroke5. Stop Expecting Fairness in Everything.停止期望一切公平Life isn’t always fair. Sometimes you don’t get the recognition or reward for your hard work; that’s just how it is. Learn to be ok with giving something your all and not expecting anything in return.生活並非一直公平。有時你辛勤工作卻得不到認可或獎勵，事實就是如此。所以要放寬心胸：付出所有，但不要期待任何回報。Fairness 英 [ˈfeənəs] 美 [ˈfernəs] n.公正，公平； （皮膚的）潔白； 金髮； 順利性The quality of treating people equally or in a way that is right or reasonable.Recognition 英 [ˌrekəgˈnɪʃn] 美 [ˌrɛkəɡˈnɪʃən] n.認識，識別； 承認，認可； 褒獎； 酬勞If you are given recognition, people show admiration and respect for your achievements. It can also be used to describe an agreement that something is true or legal.Giving something your all 傾注你所有的東西To put a lot of effort into doing something.
Photo Goroke6. Stop Expecting Things to be Easy.停止期望凡事簡單容易If you only ever do the simplest things, you’ll never do anything great. Life is hard. Trials will come your way that you don’t feel prepared for. But know that you can stay strong and do hard things. Anything worth achieving in life requires hard work, diligence and self-discipline. If you only strive for mediocrity, that’s all you’ll ever be.如果總是挑簡單的事做，那你永遠成不了大器。生活會在始料不及時考驗你，所以你必須挑戰困難、保持堅強。世上任何值得擁有的東西都需要付諸努力、勤奮和自律。倘若自甘平庸，那你就會變得庸碌無為。To be prepared 做好準備To be ready to deal with a situation.Require 英 [rɪˈkwaɪə(r)] 美 [rɪˈkwaɪr] vt.要求； 需要； 想要； 命令vi.要求，規定；To need something or something is necessary to do something.Diligence 英 [ˈdɪlɪdʒəns] 美 [ˈdɪlədʒəns] n.勤勉，勤奮；Earnest and persistent application to an undertaking; steady effort; assiduity. Attentive care; heedfulness.Self-discipline 英 [self 'dɪsəplɪn] 美 [ˈsɛlfˈdɪsəplɪn] n.自我訓練，自我修養； 自律；The ability to make yourself do things you know you should do even when you do not want to.Strive 英 [straɪv] 美 [straɪv] vi.努力奮鬥，力求； 鬥爭，力爭；To try very hard to do something or to make something happen, especially for a long time or against difficulties.Mediocrity英 [ˌmi:diˈɒkrəti] 美 [ˌmidiˈɑkrəti] n.平庸，平凡； 庸人； 平平常常的才能；A person that is not very good at something or not very good at anything in particular, or something that is not very good.
Photo Xuan Ioc Xuan7. Stop Expecting Something for Nothing.停止期望不勞而獲If you don’t put any effort into accomplishing something you want, you’re not going to get the results you desire. If you want to lose weight, you have to make changes by eating healthy and exercising. You can’t eat what you want, when you want and still expect to look amazing. If you want something, then work your hardest to achieve it.若是渴望得到卻又不付諸努力，那你絕不會取得期望的成就。想要減肥?那就開始健康飲食、規律運動吧。若還是任著性子亂吃，你永遠也不可能變得苗條美麗!若有所渴望，那就全力以赴去爭取!To Desire (verb.) 慾望（動詞）To want something, especially strongly.Desire 英 [dɪˈzaɪə(r)] 美 [ dɪˈzaɪr] vt.希望； 渴望； 要求； 請求n.願望； 慾望； 希望； 請求vi.有希望； 期望； 願望； 想望A wish, something you want.Amazing 英 [əˈmeɪzɪŋ] 美 [ə'meɪzɪŋ] adj.令人驚異的；vt.使大為吃驚，使驚奇( amaze的現在分詞)； 使驚異：感到非常好奇；n.吃驚； 好奇；Extremely surprising, often very good.Work your hardest 努力到極致To work very hard.
Photo Xuan Ioc Xuan8. Stop Expecting People to Change.停止期望別人有所改變People are habitual. We like things to be constant. It’s comfortable. We can change, but it takes time. If you desire someone else to change, you need to start with yourself. You don’t have the power to change anyone other than yourself, and once you realize that, your life will be a lot happier.人都依戀習慣，喜歡萬事固定不變、舒服穩妥。雖然改變也行，但卻耗費時間。要是你期望別人有所改變，那就先從改變自己開始吧。你的力量只在於改變自己，而非其他任何人; 一旦意識到這點，生活會變得舒心很多。 To be constant 恆定不變的Staying the same, keep happening regularly, or not getting less or more.Comfortable 英 [ˈkʌmftəbl] 美 [ˈkʌmfətəbəl] adj.舒適的； 安逸的，處於輕鬆的； 充裕的；Allowing you to be relaxed, causing no worries, difficulty, or uncertaintyIt takes time 這需要時間It needs or requires time to happen or be done.The power 能力；權利The ability or right to control people or things
Photo Xuan Ioc Xuan9. Stop Expecting People to Drop Everything for You.停止期望別人為你放棄一切You’re not the only one who has bad days. Friends and family members should be someone you can count on to help you when life gets hard, but don’t abuse these relationships. Learn to take care of yourself. Being independent is healthy. You shouldn’t have to insist that you do everything on your own, but you don’t want to keep putting your friends and family members in a position that causes them to miss out on important events in their lives because they are helping you.世上不幸的人何止你一個。遭遇坎坷時，固然可以向親朋好友尋求撫慰，但請不要濫求無度。學會照顧好自己，能夠獨立才是健康。你當然可以自力更生，而且不要使你的親友因為幫助你而錯失他們自己生活中的重要事情。To Drop Everything 放下一切To stop whatever you are doing.Bad day 糟糕的一天A day when you feel that everything seems to go wrong.Abuse 英 [əˈbju:s] 美 [əˈbjuz] n.濫用； 惡習； 侮辱； 惡言vt.濫用； 虐待； 辱罵；To use something for the wrong purpose in a way that is harmful or morally wrong.Independent 英 [ˌɪndɪˈpendənt] 美 [ˌɪndɪˈpɛndənt] adj.自主的； 不相關連的； 無黨派的； 不相干的人所做的（或提供的）n.獨立自主的人； 無黨派人士；Not influenced or controlled in any way by other people, events, or things.To insist 堅持To say firmly or demand forcefully, especially when others disagree with or oppose what you say.To put someone in a position 把某人放在一個位置上To cause that someone experiences being in a situation in a certain way.To miss out on 錯過了To fail to use an opportunity to enjoy or get an advantage from something.
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放低對他人的期待
能夠極大減低給彼此生活帶來的
不必要的挫折感，也能幫助你重新認知到那些真正重要的事，比如獲取自我發展，學會獨立和自力更生。每個人都活得不容易，放掉妄想才能解放自己， 解放他人。靠天靠地不如靠自己
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