I' m gonna share with you the most important habit that you could ever learn in your life.
我要和你分享你一生中最重要的習慣。
And no, it's not something like meditate, exercise, or get up early.
不,不是冥想、鍛鍊或早起。
This is something that I have not heard anyone talk about.
這是我從未聽到任何人談論過的。
And I'm gonna tell you what it is by sharing with you a quick two minute story.
我要和你們分享一個兩分鐘的小故事來告訴你們這是什麼。
This is Tom.
這是湯姆。
And Tom has told himself that 2019 is going to be the year where he finally gets his life together.
湯姆告訴自己,2019年將是他最終重新開始生活的一年。
So on New Year's Eve of2018,he sits down , and he writes out all of his New Year's resolutions.
所以在2018年新年前夕,他坐下來,寫下了他所有的新年決心。
And he writes things like exercise, eat healthy, and get up early.
他寫的東西包括鍛鍊、健康飲食和早起。
And,as Tom is writing all of this down,he is getting really excited.
當湯姆把這些都寫下來的時候,他非常興奮。
And he can almost feel all the newfound energy that he's going to have.
他幾乎能感覺到他即將擁有的所有新能量。
And he even becomes proud of himself,just for thinking of doing all these things.
他甚至為自己感到驕傲,僅僅因為想到要做這些事情。
So the new year comes around,and Tom starts off really strong.
所以新年來了,湯姆一開始就信念堅定。
He's working out, he's getting up early,and he looks and feels a lot better.
他在鍛鍊,他起得很早,他看起來感覺好多。
But one day, after a long day at work, he didn't really feel like going to the gym.
但是有一天,在一天漫長的工作之後,他真的不想去健身房了。
"It's not good to work out when you are tired. "
“當你累了的時候去鍛鍊是不好的。
Tom would tell himself, so he decided to go home.
湯姆會這樣告訴自己,所以他決定回家。
And when he got home, he didn't really feel like eating that big bowl of salad.
當他回到家,他真的不想吃那大碗沙拉。
What he felt like eating was a great big juicy burger.
他想吃的是一個又大又多汁的漢堡。
And again, Tom told himself that, "You know what, I have been working really hard over the past
few weeks. "
湯姆又一次對自己說:“你知道嗎,過去幾周我一直在努力工作。
"I deserve a day off. "
“我應該休息一天。
And that's exactly what he took for himself.
而這正是他為自己所做的。
And over the next few weeks,Tom's good habits started to slow down.
在接下來的幾個星期裡,湯姆的好習慣開始變慢了。
He started to sleep in a little bit.
他開始有點睡過頭了。
He would skip a gym session here and there.
他會開始偶爾不去健身房課程。
And then the fast forward another few weeks, and almost all of Tom's good habits are gone.
再過幾個星期,湯姆幾乎所有的好習慣都消失了。
And he basically ended up exactl where he started.
他基本上回到了起點。
Personally,I can totally relate with Tom,and I'm guessing at least some of you probably can too.
就我個人而言,我完全能和湯姆產生共鳴,我猜你們當中至少有些人也能。
And the question is, why did Tom not stick with his good new habits?
問題是,湯姆為什麼不堅持他的好習慣。
And the main reason why tom , and why most people don't stick with good new positive habits,is
because they don't possess the most important habit , which is something called commitment.
湯姆和大多數人不堅持新的好習慣的王要原因,是因為他們沒有最重要的習慣,也就是所謂的承諾。
And the definition of commitment is an engagement or obligation that restricts freedom of action.
承諾的定義是限制行動自由的承諾或義務。
So that means you no longer have the freedom to do anything else once you commit to something.
所以這意味著一旦你承諾了某件事,你就不再有做其他事情的自由了。
So you might be asking yourself.
你可能會問自己
"Well, how do I really get this commitment thing?
“那麼,我怎麼才能真正得到這種承諾呢?”
And there honestly isn't a really simple answer to this.
老實說,這個問題沒有一個簡單的答案。
But the best answer that I can give you is that you have to just think long and hard about what you are committing to.
但我能給你的最好的答案是,你必須認真思考你所承諾的事情。
I'll give you an example.
我給你舉個例子。
Let's say you currently lift weights two times per month.
假設你現在每月舉重兩次。
And you tell yourself that you want to start to work out more.
你告訴自己,你想開始做更多的運動。
Most people in this situation will say, "I am going to go to the gym three times per week, for now on."
大多數處於這種情況的人會說,“從現在開始,我打算每週去三次健身房。”
Now, this may not seem like a ton.
現在,這看起來可能不是很多。
But this is actually a 600% increase from going to the gym two times per month,to 12 times per month.
但這實際上是600%的增長,從每月去兩次健身房,到每月12次。
And,it's this drastic change that makes it really hard to stay committed.
而且,正是這種劇烈的變化讓我們很難保持承諾。
So, this is what I would recommend.
所以,這就是我的建議。
Instead of going to the gym three times per week, try going to the gym once every week, for the next three nonths.
在接下來的三個月裡,試著每週去一次健身房,而不是每週去三次。
And then once that becomes easy, and it feels like it's just a part of your normal day life, like brushing
your teeth.
一旦這變得簡單,感覺就像這只是你日常生活的一部分,就像刷牙一樣。
Then go to the gym two times per week,and then do that for three months.
然後每週去兩次健身房,堅持三個月。
Then three times, and four times and so on and so forth.
然後是三次,四次,依此類推。
And,I would also recommend just focusing on one new habit atatime
而且,我還建議一次只專注於一個新習慣。
You can try doing a few at a time, but usually you will end up exactly like Tom.
你可以試著一次做幾個,但通常你最終會和湯姆。
But if you really do feel like you can take on more, then go for it.
但如果你真的覺得自己可以承擔更多,那就去做吧。
But the key thing here,is to always stay committed.
但這裡的關鍵是堅持下去。
It's really important to never ever go back on your commitments.
永遠不要違揹你的承諾,這是非常重要的。
Because, if you cannot honor your commitments,you simply won't ge to where you want to go in life.
因為,如果你不能履行你的承諾,你就無法過上你想要的生活。
Creating great habits is kind of likebuilding a house.
養成好習慣有點像蓋房子。
Imagine that all of your habits are like bricks that you stack on top ot one another.
想象一下,你所有的習慣都像磚頭一樣堆積在一起。
And the commitment is like the glue that holds all the bricks in place.
承諾就像膠水,把所有的磚塊粘在一起。
It's kind of fun, and easy, in a way,to just kind of stack up bricks on top of one another.
在某種程度上,這很有趣,很簡單,就像把磚頭堆在一起。
And then we imagine this amazing looking house that we are going to build.
然後我們想象我們將要建造的這個漂亮的房子。
But,without the glue,without the cement,that house will inevitably fall.
但是,沒有膠水,沒有水泥,那座房子將不可避免地倒塌。
And you will probably end up exactly where you left off.
你很可能會回到剛剛結束的地方。
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