I' m gonna share with you the most important habit that you could ever learn in your life.
我要和你分享你一生中最重要的习惯。
And no, it's not something like meditate, exercise, or get up early.
不,不是冥想、锻炼或早起。
This is something that I have not heard anyone talk about.
这是我从未听到任何人谈论过的。
And I'm gonna tell you what it is by sharing with you a quick two minute story.
我要和你们分享一个两分钟的小故事来告诉你们这是什么。
This is Tom.
这是汤姆。
And Tom has told himself that 2019 is going to be the year where he finally gets his life together.
汤姆告诉自己,2019年将是他最终重新开始生活的一年。
So on New Year's Eve of2018,he sits down , and he writes out all of his New Year's resolutions.
所以在2018年新年前夕,他坐下来,写下了他所有的新年决心。
And he writes things like exercise, eat healthy, and get up early.
他写的东西包括锻炼、健康饮食和早起。
And,as Tom is writing all of this down,he is getting really excited.
当汤姆把这些都写下来的时候,他非常兴奋。
And he can almost feel all the newfound energy that he's going to have.
他几乎能感觉到他即将拥有的所有新能量。
And he even becomes proud of himself,just for thinking of doing all these things.
他甚至为自己感到骄傲,仅仅因为想到要做这些事情。
So the new year comes around,and Tom starts off really strong.
所以新年来了,汤姆一开始就信念坚定。
He's working out, he's getting up early,and he looks and feels a lot better.
他在锻炼,他起得很早,他看起来感觉好多。
But one day, after a long day at work, he didn't really feel like going to the gym.
但是有一天,在一天漫长的工作之后,他真的不想去健身房了。
"It's not good to work out when you are tired. "
“当你累了的时候去锻炼是不好的。
Tom would tell himself, so he decided to go home.
汤姆会这样告诉自己,所以他决定回家。
And when he got home, he didn't really feel like eating that big bowl of salad.
当他回到家,他真的不想吃那大碗沙拉。
What he felt like eating was a great big juicy burger.
他想吃的是一个又大又多汁的汉堡。
And again, Tom told himself that, "You know what, I have been working really hard over the past
few weeks. "
汤姆又一次对自己说:“你知道吗,过去几周我一直在努力工作。
"I deserve a day off. "
“我应该休息一天。
And that's exactly what he took for himself.
而这正是他为自己所做的。
And over the next few weeks,Tom's good habits started to slow down.
在接下来的几个星期里,汤姆的好习惯开始变慢了。
He started to sleep in a little bit.
他开始有点睡过头了。
He would skip a gym session here and there.
他会开始偶尔不去健身房课程。
And then the fast forward another few weeks, and almost all of Tom's good habits are gone.
再过几个星期,汤姆几乎所有的好习惯都消失了。
And he basically ended up exactl where he started.
他基本上回到了起点。
Personally,I can totally relate with Tom,and I'm guessing at least some of you probably can too.
就我个人而言,我完全能和汤姆产生共鸣,我猜你们当中至少有些人也能。
And the question is, why did Tom not stick with his good new habits?
问题是,汤姆为什么不坚持他的好习惯。
And the main reason why tom , and why most people don't stick with good new positive habits,is
because they don't possess the most important habit , which is something called commitment.
汤姆和大多数人不坚持新的好习惯的王要原因,是因为他们没有最重要的习惯,也就是所谓的承诺。
And the definition of commitment is an engagement or obligation that restricts freedom of action.
承诺的定义是限制行动自由的承诺或义务。
So that means you no longer have the freedom to do anything else once you commit to something.
所以这意味着一旦你承诺了某件事,你就不再有做其他事情的自由了。
So you might be asking yourself.
你可能会问自己
"Well, how do I really get this commitment thing?
“那么,我怎么才能真正得到这种承诺呢?”
And there honestly isn't a really simple answer to this.
老实说,这个问题没有一个简单的答案。
But the best answer that I can give you is that you have to just think long and hard about what you are committing to.
但我能给你的最好的答案是,你必须认真思考你所承诺的事情。
I'll give you an example.
我给你举个例子。
Let's say you currently lift weights two times per month.
假设你现在每月举重两次。
And you tell yourself that you want to start to work out more.
你告诉自己,你想开始做更多的运动。
Most people in this situation will say, "I am going to go to the gym three times per week, for now on."
大多数处于这种情况的人会说,“从现在开始,我打算每周去三次健身房。”
Now, this may not seem like a ton.
现在,这看起来可能不是很多。
But this is actually a 600% increase from going to the gym two times per month,to 12 times per month.
但这实际上是600%的增长,从每月去两次健身房,到每月12次。
And,it's this drastic change that makes it really hard to stay committed.
而且,正是这种剧烈的变化让我们很难保持承诺。
So, this is what I would recommend.
所以,这就是我的建议。
Instead of going to the gym three times per week, try going to the gym once every week, for the next three nonths.
在接下来的三个月里,试着每周去一次健身房,而不是每周去三次。
And then once that becomes easy, and it feels like it's just a part of your normal day life, like brushing
your teeth.
一旦这变得简单,感觉就像这只是你日常生活的一部分,就像刷牙一样。
Then go to the gym two times per week,and then do that for three months.
然后每周去两次健身房,坚持三个月。
Then three times, and four times and so on and so forth.
然后是三次,四次,依此类推。
And,I would also recommend just focusing on one new habit atatime
而且,我还建议一次只专注于一个新习惯。
You can try doing a few at a time, but usually you will end up exactly like Tom.
你可以试着一次做几个,但通常你最终会和汤姆。
But if you really do feel like you can take on more, then go for it.
但如果你真的觉得自己可以承担更多,那就去做吧。
But the key thing here,is to always stay committed.
但这里的关键是坚持下去。
It's really important to never ever go back on your commitments.
永远不要违背你的承诺,这是非常重要的。
Because, if you cannot honor your commitments,you simply won't ge to where you want to go in life.
因为,如果你不能履行你的承诺,你就无法过上你想要的生活。
Creating great habits is kind of likebuilding a house.
养成好习惯有点像盖房子。
Imagine that all of your habits are like bricks that you stack on top ot one another.
想象一下,你所有的习惯都像砖头一样堆积在一起。
And the commitment is like the glue that holds all the bricks in place.
承诺就像胶水,把所有的砖块粘在一起。
It's kind of fun, and easy, in a way,to just kind of stack up bricks on top of one another.
在某种程度上,这很有趣,很简单,就像把砖头堆在一起。
And then we imagine this amazing looking house that we are going to build.
然后我们想象我们将要建造的这个漂亮的房子。
But,without the glue,without the cement,that house will inevitably fall.
但是,没有胶水,没有水泥,那座房子将不可避免地倒塌。
And you will probably end up exactly where you left off.
你很可能会回到刚刚结束的地方。
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