It is quite common that we come across people in our daily lives who manage to rub us the wrong way. Interacting with people who irritate us can be quite tiresome, not to mention stressful. At the same time, there is no way to avoid them completely.
在我們的日常生活裡，總會遇到這樣的人，用他們錯誤的方式障礙我們。和讓你心生厭煩的人打交道，是很討厭的一件事，所帶來的壓力更不必說。同時，你卻沒有辦法完全屏蔽他們。
In the first part of our series on Loving the Irksome, we take a look at what Sadhguru has to say about people who irritate us and how to deal with them.
愛那讓你心生厭煩的，這是我們策劃的一個系列。在這個系列的第一部分，關於讓我們心生厭煩的人，以及如何與他們相處的問題，先讓我們看看薩古魯是怎麼說的吧。
Sadhguru:
How to love people who irritate you? Don’t pretend to love them, just understand that they are irritating you. Why are they irritating you? Simply because, they are not the way you expect them to be. They are not the way you want them to be. And in the same breath you also claim that you believe in God. If you believe in God, then the person who irritates you also happens to be a creation of God, and he seems to be such a masterpiece that he can just irritate the hell out of you, isn’t it? So, don’t deceive yourself. Just see irritation is happening because you have already decided what is right and what is wrong. You have decided, “This is the right way to be.” If they’re some other way, they will irritate you first, then you will get angry, then you will hate them, then you will want to kill them. This is a natural progression simply because you are expecting everybody in the world to be like you. If everybody in the world were like you, could you be here? In your own home, if there was one more person like you, could you live in that house? Would it be possible? It’s very good that everybody in the world is the way they are.
薩古魯：怎麼去愛讓你心生厭煩的人？不要假裝愛他們。他們在煩你，你只需表示理解就好了。他們為什麼會讓你感到厭煩？只是因為他們並不是你期望中的樣子。他們並不是你想要的那樣。同樣地，你宣稱自己相信上帝。假如你相信上帝，那麼，讓你厭煩的那人也是上帝造出來的。他看起來是上帝多麼成功的一件作品，但是他卻只能把你心中地獄的一面給激出來，是嗎？所以，不要再欺騙、誤導自己了。看看吧，你之所以會厭煩那人，只是因為你已經設定了自己的評判標準。你已經設定了，“這才是對的方式。”假如他們有別於此，就會讓你心煩，然後你會生氣，憎恨他們，甚至連殺死他們的心都有。這並不奇怪，這只是因為你想讓世界的任何一個人都和你一樣。假如世界上任何一個人都像你一樣，你還會在這兒嗎？在你自己的家裡，假如還有一個和你一模一樣的人，你還能住在那個房子裡嗎？那可能嗎？世界上每個人各行其道還是很好的。
Any human being that you take here of this whole mass of people, they’re absolutely unique, isn’t it? Yes? They’re absolutely unique. The person who is sitting next to you right now, if you look at them, you will see there is no other human being like this person anywhere in this planet. There never was one, there never will be one. This is an absolutely unique human being. If you recognize that there is only one like this, it is such precious material, how can it irritate you? Just turn around and see, people sitting next to you are absolutely unique human beings. There isn’t another one like that, and it is such a miracle for you that today you are sitting next to this human being who is absolutely unique. Never before, never again on this planet. Where is the question of irritation? You’re blind, that is why you are irritated. You’re simply blind to life. You have not opened your eyes and looked at life, that is why you can be irritated. Otherwise how can anybody irritate you?
這群人中的任何一個，都是絕對獨一無二的，是嗎？是的？他們絕對獨一無二。現在坐在你身邊的那個人，你看看他們，你會發現，在這個地球上，沒有一個人和他一模一樣。以前沒有，將來也沒有。這是一個絕對獨一無二的人。假如你認識到只有一個像這樣的人，他是如此珍貴，那他還會讓你心煩嗎？看看四周，坐在你周圍的人都是絕對獨一無二的人。沒有任何其他的人完全像他們。那麼今天，你坐在這麼獨一無二的人身邊，真是一個了不起的奇蹟。在這個地球上，以前你沒有遇到，以後你也不會再遇到。還哪兒來的心煩呢？你是盲目的、無知的，所以你才會心煩。你看不到真正的生命所在。你還沒睜開你的眼睛，還沒看到真正的生命，這才是你心煩的真正原因。要不然，別人怎麼可能會讓你心煩呢？
