Who decides what’s good and what’s bad for relationships? Especially when it’s your relationship and only you and your partner know exactly what’s going on between the two of you. Yet society thinks it knows best, that’s why there exists so many rules as to what’s good for a couple and what they should never ever do. But you know what? Only you and you alone can tell what harms your relationships and what makes them stronger. Here are 8 taboos that might actually save your relationships.
誰來決定什麼是好的什麼是壞的關係？尤其是在你們的關係上，只有你和你的伴侶知道你們之間到底發生了什麼。然而，社會認為它最清楚，這就是為什麼存在太多的規則，有什麼好處和什麼不應該做的對於夫妻。但你知道嗎？只有你和你自己才能知道是什麼傷害了你的關係，是什麼讓它們變得更強大。這裡有8個禁忌可能會挽救你的關係。
1.Sleeping in separate beds
Psychologists admit that if you’re sleeping in separate beds this is a sign that your relationships are in trouble. But when the decision is mutual and for whatever reason you both are happier sleeping in separate beds – then why not? There’s nothing wrong with it and it shouldn’t be a taboo.
分開睡
心理學家承認，如果你睡在分開的床上，這表明你的關係有麻煩了。但是，當決定是相互的，無論出於什麼原因，你們倆都更喜歡分開睡——那為什麼不呢？這沒什麼問題，也不應該成為禁忌。
2.Texting all the time
While messaging definitely helps people stay in touch, it can also become a little bit too much. Isn’t it better to wait till you have that special quality time together to discuss everything you want to discuss in private, face to face? Of course, texting can be a pretty romantic part of your relationships, but it is also fine if you and your partner don’t want to distract each other too much during the day. Whatever works for you!
一直髮短信
雖然信息肯定有助於人們保持聯繫，但它也可能變得有點太多。是不是最好等到你們有特別的時間在一起，私下裡面對面地討論你們想討論的事情？當然，發短信在你的人際關係中是相當浪漫的一部分，但是如果你和你的伴侶不想在白天讓對方分心太多的話，發短信也是可以的。什麼對你有用！
3.Spend time without your girlfriend
Being in a relationship doesn’t mean you have to be together all the time. In fact, it’s best if you go out with your dudes and just have fun without your loved one. After all, you are two individuals and don’t have to be present in each other’s lives 24/7.
花時間和你女朋友在一起
戀愛並不意味著你必須一直在一起。事實上，如果你和你的哥們出去玩，沒有你愛的人在一起，那是最好的。畢竟，你們是兩個人，不必一天24小時都在對方的生活中。
4.Talk about exes
Things can easily go south when you start talking about yours or her exes, but it can also be a truly revealing process. Those people were part of your lives and made you who you are today, and that’s a good thing. Talking about exes shouldn’t be a taboo as it shows that you are over those relationships and can easily talk about them.
談前任
當你開始談論你或她的前男友時，事情很容易變得糟糕，但這也可能是一個真正的揭示過程。那些人是你生活的一部分，造就了今天的你，這是件好事。談論前任不應該是一個禁忌，因為這表明你已經結束了這些關係，可以很容易地談論他們。
5.Talk about money
It’s impossible to be together and avoid the financial topic, after all, once you start sharing your life with another person, you also start sharing money, one way or another. Nevertheless, talking about financial issues and money in general became a taboo and a huge source of stress for many couples. But how are you willing to plan your life together if you don’t talk about money? You have to spill everything that’s on your mind!
談錢
在一起不可能迴避財務話題，畢竟，一旦你開始和別人分享你的生活，你也開始以這種或那種方式分享金錢。儘管如此，談論經濟問題和金錢成為許多夫婦的禁忌和巨大的壓力來源。但是，如果你不談錢，你怎麼會願意一起計劃你的生活呢？你得把腦子裡想的都說出來！
6.Eat different things
We all have different eating habits and it can happen so that you are, for example, a vegetarian, while your boyfriend enjoys meat dishes to the fullest. In a situation like this one should not sacrifice his own eating habits as it will definitely put a strain on relationships in the future and will make the person truly, deeply unhappy. Allow yourself to eat what and when you want it and see if the two of you have similar habits to enjoy at least a few meals together. Don’t even think about changing the other person’s habits – things like these are personal and should happen without intervention from outside.
吃不同的東西
我們都有不同的飲食習慣，這可能會發生，例如，你是素食主義者，而你的男朋友最喜歡吃肉。在這種情況下，一個人不應該犧牲自己的飲食習慣，因為這肯定會給未來的人際關係帶來壓力，會讓人真正地、深深地不快樂。讓自己想吃什麼，什麼時候想吃，看看你們兩個有沒有相似的習慣，至少一起吃幾頓飯。甚至不要考慮改變別人的習慣——像這樣的事情是個人的，應該在沒有外界干預的情況下發生。