Who decides what’s good and what’s bad for relationships? Especially when it’s your relationship and only you and your partner know exactly what’s going on between the two of you. Yet society thinks it knows best, that’s why there exists so many rules as to what’s good for a couple and what they should never ever do. But you know what? Only you and you alone can tell what harms your relationships and what makes them stronger. Here are 8 taboos that might actually save your relationships.
谁来决定什么是好的什么是坏的关系？尤其是在你们的关系上，只有你和你的伴侣知道你们之间到底发生了什么。然而，社会认为它最清楚，这就是为什么存在太多的规则，有什么好处和什么不应该做的对于夫妻。但你知道吗？只有你和你自己才能知道是什么伤害了你的关系，是什么让它们变得更强大。这里有8个禁忌可能会挽救你的关系。
1.Sleeping in separate beds
Psychologists admit that if you’re sleeping in separate beds this is a sign that your relationships are in trouble. But when the decision is mutual and for whatever reason you both are happier sleeping in separate beds – then why not? There’s nothing wrong with it and it shouldn’t be a taboo.
分开睡
心理学家承认，如果你睡在分开的床上，这表明你的关系有麻烦了。但是，当决定是相互的，无论出于什么原因，你们俩都更喜欢分开睡——那为什么不呢？这没什么问题，也不应该成为禁忌。
2.Texting all the time
While messaging definitely helps people stay in touch, it can also become a little bit too much. Isn’t it better to wait till you have that special quality time together to discuss everything you want to discuss in private, face to face? Of course, texting can be a pretty romantic part of your relationships, but it is also fine if you and your partner don’t want to distract each other too much during the day. Whatever works for you!
一直发短信
虽然信息肯定有助于人们保持联系，但它也可能变得有点太多。是不是最好等到你们有特别的时间在一起，私下里面对面地讨论你们想讨论的事情？当然，发短信在你的人际关系中是相当浪漫的一部分，但是如果你和你的伴侣不想在白天让对方分心太多的话，发短信也是可以的。什么对你有用！
3.Spend time without your girlfriend
Being in a relationship doesn’t mean you have to be together all the time. In fact, it’s best if you go out with your dudes and just have fun without your loved one. After all, you are two individuals and don’t have to be present in each other’s lives 24/7.
花时间和你女朋友在一起
恋爱并不意味着你必须一直在一起。事实上，如果你和你的哥们出去玩，没有你爱的人在一起，那是最好的。毕竟，你们是两个人，不必一天24小时都在对方的生活中。
4.Talk about exes
Things can easily go south when you start talking about yours or her exes, but it can also be a truly revealing process. Those people were part of your lives and made you who you are today, and that’s a good thing. Talking about exes shouldn’t be a taboo as it shows that you are over those relationships and can easily talk about them.
谈前任
当你开始谈论你或她的前男友时，事情很容易变得糟糕，但这也可能是一个真正的揭示过程。那些人是你生活的一部分，造就了今天的你，这是件好事。谈论前任不应该是一个禁忌，因为这表明你已经结束了这些关系，可以很容易地谈论他们。
5.Talk about money
It’s impossible to be together and avoid the financial topic, after all, once you start sharing your life with another person, you also start sharing money, one way or another. Nevertheless, talking about financial issues and money in general became a taboo and a huge source of stress for many couples. But how are you willing to plan your life together if you don’t talk about money? You have to spill everything that’s on your mind!
谈钱
在一起不可能回避财务话题，毕竟，一旦你开始和别人分享你的生活，你也开始以这种或那种方式分享金钱。尽管如此，谈论经济问题和金钱成为许多夫妇的禁忌和巨大的压力来源。但是，如果你不谈钱，你怎么会愿意一起计划你的生活呢？你得把脑子里想的都说出来！
6.Eat different things
We all have different eating habits and it can happen so that you are, for example, a vegetarian, while your boyfriend enjoys meat dishes to the fullest. In a situation like this one should not sacrifice his own eating habits as it will definitely put a strain on relationships in the future and will make the person truly, deeply unhappy. Allow yourself to eat what and when you want it and see if the two of you have similar habits to enjoy at least a few meals together. Don’t even think about changing the other person’s habits – things like these are personal and should happen without intervention from outside.
吃不同的东西
我们都有不同的饮食习惯，这可能会发生，例如，你是素食主义者，而你的男朋友最喜欢吃肉。在这种情况下，一个人不应该牺牲自己的饮食习惯，因为这肯定会给未来的人际关系带来压力，会让人真正地、深深地不快乐。让自己想吃什么，什么时候想吃，看看你们两个有没有相似的习惯，至少一起吃几顿饭。甚至不要考虑改变别人的习惯——像这样的事情是个人的，应该在没有外界干预的情况下发生。
