Do not fall into the trap of dogma.
There is no single simple answer to any question.
Remember during your high school debate class, I always asked you to take on the side that you don't believe in?
I did that for a reason -- things rarely "black and white", and there are always many ways to look at a problem.
You will become a better problem solver if you recognized that.
This is called "critical thinking", and it is the most important thinking skill you need for your life.
This also means you need to become tolerant and supportive of others.
I will always remember when I went to my Ph.D. advisor and proposed a new thesis topic.
He said "I don't agree with you, but I'll support you."
After the years, I have learned this isn't just flexibility, it is encouragement of critical thinking, and an empowering style of leadership, and it has become a part of me.
I hope it will become a part of you too.
不要被教條所束縛，任何問題都沒有一個唯一的簡單的答案。還記得當我幫助你高中的辯論課程時，我總是讓你站在你不認可的那一方來辯論嗎？我這麼做的理由就是希望你能夠理解：看待一個問題不應該非黑即白，而是有很多方法和角度。當你意識到這點的時候，你就會成為一個很好的解決問題者。這就是“批判的思維”——你的一生都會需要的最重要的思考方式，這也意味著你還需要包容和支持不同於你的其他觀點。我永遠記得我去找我的博士導師提出了一個新論題，他告訴我：“我不同意你，但我支持你。”多年後，我認識到這不僅僅是包容，而是一種批判式思考，更是令人折服的領導風格，現在這也變成了我的一部分。我希望這也能成為你的一部分。
Follow your passion in college. Take courses you think you will enjoy.
Don't be trapped in what others think or say.
Steve Jobs says when you are in college, your passion will create many dots, and later in your life you will connect them.
In his great speech given at Stanford commencement, he gave the great example where he took calligraphy, and a decade later, it became the basis of the beautiful Macintosh fonts, which later ignited desktop publishing, and brought wonderful tools like Microsoft Word to our lives.
His expedition into calligraphy was a dot, and the Macintosh became the connecting line.
So don't worry too much about what job you will have, and don't be too utilitarian, and if you like Japanese or Korean, go for it, even if your dad thinks "it's not useful".
Enjoy picking your dots, and be assured one day you will find your calling, and connect a beautiful curve through the dots.
在大學裡你要追隨自己的激情和興趣，選你感興趣的課程，不要困擾於別人怎麼說或怎麼想。史蒂夫•喬布斯曾經說過，在大學裡你的熱情會創造出很多點，在你隨後的生命中你會把這些點串聯起來。在他著名的斯坦福畢業典禮演講中，他舉了一個很好的例子：他在大學裡修了看似毫無用處的書法，而十年後，這成了蘋果Macintosh裡漂亮字庫的基礎，而因為Macintosh有這麼好的字庫，才帶來了桌面出版和今天的辦公軟件（例如微軟Office）。他對書法的探索就是一個點，而蘋果Macintosh把多個點聯結成了一條線。所以不要太擔心將來你要做什麼樣的工作，也不要太急功近利。假如你喜歡日語或韓語，就去學吧，即使你爸爸曾認為那沒什麼用：）盡興地選擇你的點吧，要有信念有一天機緣來臨時，你會找到自己的人生使命，畫出一條美麗的曲線。
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